The conundrum

This weekend I have been delightfully invited to attend THE event dreaded by singletons the world over......a wedding. Now having been single for the better part of twenty-.....er.....odd years, I was excited knowing that now that I have a mate I wouldn't, for the first time, be the lonely gal conversing with her third piece of cake while everyone else is off dancing. HOWEVER................

My mate has decided he isn't going to go. Now, I'm pissed...this is the second time I have required the use of an escort and my mate has refused. And I want to bitch and I want to scream and I want to demand that he live up to his mate-ly duties and go, suck it up, and at least pretend to have a good time. BUT.................

This weekend is also the annual celebration of my mate's birth and his family is having a party on Sunday (the day after the wedding). I Have Absolutely No Desire To Go. I do not like hanging with him around his family because no one , especially him, speaks to me. I can think of much better ways for me to spend my time than as an outcast in the corner.

So here in lies the conundrum....is it completely irrational of me as a female to insist that my mate attend the wedding and still refuse to attend his family-time birthday party?